They often hide in Facebook groups for neurotypical partners of aspies. I found out about this one the hard way by stepping into the middle of one…

Anti-Autistic Hate GroupsĪs laughable as it sounds, they’re out there. Often, we grow to regard the other as childish, emotionally immature, and selfish, our priorities forever at odds. Either way, it’s likely to strangle both people’s spirits unless they are a rare match that just happens to align on the fundamentals. There is very little available when it comes to helpful literature to explain the differences between autistic and neurotypical people (NTs), and most resources for couples ask one of the partners to do most, if not all, of the compromising. Almost anyone who has been in an NT-AS relationship will confirm this fact. It is a death of a thousand paper cuts for one or both parties. Sensory issues, social perception, cognitive profiles, and emotional differences, too, will cause nuanced discrepancies that are nearly impossible to reconcile and difficult to even pinpoint. Their core identities are rooted in different constructs, which means that their values, perceptions, and even the way they derive meaning are different. The fact is, the differences in the way each is wired are pervasive.

It is hard to make a neurotypical-Aspergian (NT-AS) relationship work.

Autism and Asperger’s are the same thing and should be considered synonyms. Please do not continue reading this article if you are not in a place to process the emotional burden of this kind of exposé.įurther, this article uses the word “Asperger’s.” The reason we did this is because that is the language the Cassandras use. Trigger warning: there is hate speech against autistic adults and children quoted in this article.

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